Soulmate or Roommate?

Posted by    |    May 20th, 2012 at 5:40 am

I’m starting a class this Sunday called “Soulmate or Roommate?.” Marriage was never intended to turn in to simply cohabitation with someone of the opposite sex, yet often it does.  Sometimes we become roommates with our soul mates because of laziness and selfishness that creep into our marriages without us doing something about them.

So has your soulmate turned into your roommate? If it has … that’s not good. Here are a few problems that cause this…

  1. Life begins to get in the way of marriage. Things like paying bills, work, children all start taking priority over marriage.
  2. You start taking your spouse for granted. You get comfortable and quit trying in marriage.
  3. You blame. Everyone is at fault for your marriage struggles … your spouse, your in-laws, your parents … everyone but you.
  4. You stop putting your spouse and their needs first. You quit working to meet their needs and do the things you once did.
  5. You get resentful and hold grudges. Resentfulness and grudges are like cancer … they will slowly kill your marriage.
  6. You start doing things out of duty and obligation instead of love. It becomes all about you.

Those are just a few of the things that turns a healthy marriage with your soulmate into a duty filled unhappy marriage with a roommate.

SOULMATE or ROOMMATE? If you want to know more and are in the Childress area, and would like to join us this Sunday morning in the class I teach, we’ll be starting a new series of studies about marriage called “Soulmate or Roommate?.” Many marriages that crash and burn do so when they just start living together and quit working at being married. God never created marriage, so you could have a roommate but a soulmate. Marriage is about intimacy, oneness and togetherness … not just cohabitation. Whether your marriage is struggling, good or great … you’ll get something out of this series. See you at 9:30 this Sunday morning … don’t be late :)