Posts Tagged ‘Trey Morgan’

How to Drop the Divorce Rate to 7% in Your Marriage!

Posted by    |    September 17th, 2011 at 5:40 am

I want to be a 5 to 1 husband!

Statistics on marriage scare me, but the Studer Group has released a new study on “Compliment to Criticism” ratio. They’ve told us from their studies, that people in general need 3 compliments given for every 1 criticism that is said to them. While that didn’t surprise me, the following statistic FLOORED me …

“Reports now show that when it comes to marriage, if you have a 5 to 1 compliment to criticism ratio, the divorce rate in that marriage drops from 50% to 7%.”

DID YOU CATCH THAT, husbands and wives? We are now learning how to beat the old statistic that says that 50% of all marriages will end in divorce. How? Give 5 compliments to your spouse for every 1 negative thing you say. When you take on the 5 to 1 plan, the divorce rate in your marriage drops to 7%. I like those odds!

My goal (and hopefully yours) today is to become a 5 to 1 kind of spouse. Today is a great day to start so before the day is out, I will give Lea five genuine compliments. I’m sure she’s going to wonder what I did, what I want or what I’m up to! :)

5 to 1 … that’s it! And the divorce rate goes from 50% to 7% … It’s time to pass the word.

You up for the 5-1 challenge with your spouse? How about making a commitment today by letting your spouse know or posting it on Facebook … or leave a comment that says, “I’m in!”  It’s called accountability. :)

Ten Things I’m Learning about Prayer

Posted by    |    September 14th, 2011 at 5:40 am

  1. If you REALLY want to get God’s attention in prayer, it’s not by being eloquent or using big words, but by being honest and shooting straight with Him.
  2. The power of praying aloud is ELECTRIC!
  3. Prayer is not about poetry or posture, but about engaging the heart.
  4. When it comes to the “power of prayer,” the power is not in the person doing the praying, but in the One who hears the prayer.
  5. God’s not moved by the length of a prayer, but by your humility (Luke 18:9-14).
  6. Prayers, even short and informal, are VERY significant.
  7. There is no secret formula, no special phrases and no exact patterns you must follow to get God to hear you, just ask in Jesus’ name.
  8. Praying with my wife is incredible. It lets me see into the special places of her heart.
  9. I should never be too busy to pray. Just as much as I love to hear from my children, God loves to hear from me.
  10. There will are plenty of times when I don’t have service on my cell phone … BUT I will ALWAYS be connected to God through prayer… any time and any place … I have PERFECT reception and service.
What have you learned about prayer?

5 Things on my iPod

Posted by    |    September 10th, 2011 at 5:40 am

Music has always been such a big part of my life. I thought I’d share with you a few things on my iPod, and I’m hoping to find some new ideas when you share a few things that you are listening to. So here are my lists …

5 things you will ALWAYS Find on my iPod …

  • Jack Johnson – HUGE fan.
  • Coffeehouse type music. Acoustic versions of popular songs and people like Ray Lamontagne, Jason Mraz, Ben Harper, etc (it’s a sure sign I’m getting old)
  • ColdPlay – Love them!
  • Lots of Rock (Classic & Modern) – Steve Miller Band, Boston, Journey, Creed, ACDC, Van Halen, Stone Temple Pilots, Linkin Park, etc
  • Some contemporary stuff – Black Eyed Peas, Dragonette, Enrique Iglesias (more…)

7 Things Your Children Desperately Need To Hear You Say

Posted by    |    September 8th, 2011 at 5:40 am

This morning as I dropped Cooper off for school, I told him, “Coop, don’t forget that you are by far my most favorite elementary school kid.” From the grin on his face, I could tell I’d said something right.

God has blessed me with four incredible boys. As their father I want to be proactive in raising them. They are one of the biggest ministries in my life right now. I’d rather fail as a minister, a missionary or a businessman, than fail at fatherhood.  Fathers play an essential roll in the lives of their children.  Want proof?  About 5 miles west of Childress is a prison that houses 1200 men.  National statistics say, “85% of those sitting in prison today grew up in a fatherless home.” That just SCREAMS the importance and power fathers play in the lives of their children.

I got to thinking this morning if I could make Cooper’s day by simply telling him, “He was my favorite elementary school kid,” then what other things do my children need to be hearing from me.  I may be wrong, but I’m guessing here are 7 phrases that children desperately need to hear from both their parents … but especially their fathers …. (more…)

10 Reasons I Don’t Like People Who Complain

Posted by    |    September 1st, 2011 at 5:40 am

Maybe it’s my personality, maybe it was the way I was raised, BUT I do NOT like constant complainers.  I’m okay with someone occasionally needing to get something off their chest, BUT nothing gets under my skin more than a person who constantly gripes and complains about everything. I’m not talking glass half empty people, who tend to not be as positive … I’m talking people who can’t even see their glass.

Here are a few things I don’t like about people who constantly complain…

  • People who complain all the time are unhappy people. If you hang out with a complainer it will suck all the life and joy right out of you.
  • Complaining takes no talent and no skills. Anyone can be a critic!
  • Complainers never see the positive in anything only the negative. Everything is always bad. They say, “Gas prices are always SO high,” and “Food is SO expensive,” but don’t realize how blessed they are to have both. They could live in a perfect world, and still find something to complain about. (more…)

Influencing a New Gang Member

Posted by    |    August 27th, 2011 at 5:40 am

Taz is a young man who blew into our community about a year ago. His past is a rough one and he openly confesses … “I’ve probably done more harm to people than good.”

Thankfully, some kind folks I do church with, saw value in Taz and reached out to him not long after he got to town. They were willing to simply be his friend. We have helped him find furniture for his house, a couple of part time jobs, groceries when his refrigerator would get empty and gave him a ride to church when he wanted.

Recently, my buddy Randy, picked Taz up and invited him to go help work on our Augment House (a house we’re restoring in Childress to give away to a needy family). After about an hour of working on the Augment House and processing everything, Taz looks over and says in his slang the following four sentences …  

“I’ve done good for nobody in my life. I grew up in gangs and all we did was do bad on folks. I want to be in y’alls gang. Y’all do good for folk and I likes that.”

How cool is that!  It was a simple reminder that you and I can still be a positive influence in the lives of others.

Maybe this would be a good time to ask … “Who are you being a positive influence on in your life?”

Come to Honduras With Me This December

Posted by    |    August 26th, 2011 at 5:40 am

Sawyer and his new friend … from last year’s trip.

Want to step out in your faith and do something that will challenge you in every way?  Want to go experience an amazing opportunity to serve? Want to go love on some beautiful people?

I will be going back to Honduras this December, and I’d like to invite you to come with me. Here’s the information…

DATES: December 6th – 12th

COST: $1500 (covers everything but a few lunches)

PEOPLE: I have room for 25 to go on this trip.

ITINERARY:

  • Tuesday – Travel Day
  • Wednesday – Jesus Banquet at the Dump
  • Thursday – Service project at the Casa de Esperanza
  • Friday – Market to purchase food and deliver it to Buen Samaritano community (like this).
  • Saturday – House Building
  • Sunday – House Building
  • Monday – Travel Home (more…)

3 Things I Learned This Past Week

Posted by    |    August 24th, 2011 at 5:40 am

“Blessed is the man who finds wisdom, the man who gains understanding…”~Proverbs 3:13

Life is about learning. Learning from mistakes, victories and others makes me a wiser and stronger person.  I’m always trying to learn things from everyday events. Little lessons hidden among daily events and activities. Some of the things I learn are beneficial and others are not. But as I see it … as long as I’m learning, I’m growing. So here are the things I’ve learned this week …

  • I learned that the second best job in the world would have to be that of an “official ice cream taster. ” I was asked this past week to be the judge of a homemade ice cream contest. Yip, you read that right. I still get chills just thinking about it. And get this, when I finished … they thanked me for helping them. ARE YOU KIDDING ME? I should have had to pay them to get this job. Oh, I know you noticed that I said, “second best job in the world” because the VERY best job would have to be “official bacon taster.” (more…)

31 Stupid Ways to Kill your Marriage

Posted by    |    August 20th, 2011 at 5:40 am

There are probably hundreds of dumb things to do in your marriage, but here are 31 that will destroy your marriage…

  1. Believe that your marriage will be great without having to invest time or effort into it.
  2. NEVER compliment or praise your spouse.
  3. Stop pursuing your spouse like you did before marriage.
  4. Be critical all the time.
  5. Demand that your spouse meets your needs.
  6. Pout when you don’t get your way.
  7. Consider sex a chore and only do it because you feel obligated.
  8. Use the silent treatment when you are mad.
  9. Get angry … often.
  10. Flirt with people other than your spouse. (more…)

I’m Finding it Hard to Squeeze God into My Daily Schedule

Posted by    |    August 16th, 2011 at 5:40 am

I’m finding it hard to squeeze some quiet time with God into my daily schedule.”  Grrr, if I had a nickel for every time I heard someone say the previous statement, I’d put all that money in a bag and whack them over the head with it.

Let me just simply say that if you can’t find even a little bit of quiet time for God each day, then it’s time to give your ‘to-do’ list a major overhaul. Hitting the ground running each day is not spiritually healthy. You have got to take some time to just be still.

Busyness is the arch-enemy of spiritual growth … AND if Satan can’t get you to give in to sin, he’ll be content with keeping you really busy.

So if you’ve acquired the unfortunate habit of trying to “squeeze” God into the corners of your life, today is a good day to reshuffle the items on your priority list.

Simply slow down (Mark 6:31-32).