Posts Tagged ‘religion and faith’

How to Drop the Divorce Rate to 7% in Your Marriage!

Posted by    |    September 17th, 2011 at 5:40 am

I want to be a 5 to 1 husband!

Statistics on marriage scare me, but the Studer Group has released a new study on “Compliment to Criticism” ratio. They’ve told us from their studies, that people in general need 3 compliments given for every 1 criticism that is said to them. While that didn’t surprise me, the following statistic FLOORED me …

“Reports now show that when it comes to marriage, if you have a 5 to 1 compliment to criticism ratio, the divorce rate in that marriage drops from 50% to 7%.”

DID YOU CATCH THAT, husbands and wives? We are now learning how to beat the old statistic that says that 50% of all marriages will end in divorce. How? Give 5 compliments to your spouse for every 1 negative thing you say. When you take on the 5 to 1 plan, the divorce rate in your marriage drops to 7%. I like those odds!

My goal (and hopefully yours) today is to become a 5 to 1 kind of spouse. Today is a great day to start so before the day is out, I will give Lea five genuine compliments. I’m sure she’s going to wonder what I did, what I want or what I’m up to! :)

5 to 1 … that’s it! And the divorce rate goes from 50% to 7% … It’s time to pass the word.

You up for the 5-1 challenge with your spouse? How about making a commitment today by letting your spouse know or posting it on Facebook … or leave a comment that says, “I’m in!”  It’s called accountability. :)

Why oil is bad for democracy

Posted by    |    September 16th, 2011 at 6:15 am

Pumpjack located south of Midland, TX (Credit: Eric Kounce via en.wikipedia.org)My wife balances our checkbook so I don’t go to jail.  Perhaps she should do the same for the entire banking industry.  Swiss banking giant UBS announced yesterday that a rogue trader has caused it an estimated $2 billion in losses.  Police in London arrested a 31-year-old UBS trader named Kweku Adoboli in the alleged fraud.

I have long maintained that democracy requires morality.  Now it is becoming clearer that a free market economy requires the same.  As another example, a fascinating article in the current edition of Foreign Affairs journal argues that oil revenues are a direct enemy of democracy.  In the last three decades, countries that produce $100 per capita of oil or less per year were three times more likely to democratize as countries that produced more than that.

A letter to America

Posted by    |    September 12th, 2011 at 6:15 am

In God We Trust 4 cent stamp (Credit: air via Fotolia)I had already written today’s essay when the thought gripped me: If God could write a letter to our grieving nation, what might he say?  I feel compelled to answer that question this morning.  I believe his letter could read as follows:

“I love you.  I formed your continent in my heart long before I fashioned it from the seas.  Its majestic peaks and fertile plains were painted by my Spirit on the canvas of its vast beauty.  I have given you resources unsurpassed by any other nation.  Then I called Pilgrims and Puritans to your shores, courageous pioneers who would bring my word to your great continent.  I sparked a hunger for liberty that led farmers and merchants to risk their lives in its pursuit.  When they declared that ‘all men are created equal,’ they spoke truth I inspired in their souls.

“A Prayer for Peace”

Posted by    |    September 11th, 2011 at 6:02 am

Today marks the 10th anniversary of 9/11, a horrendous event that was the catalyst for decisions that has resulted in thousands of dead and injured from armed conflict in Iraq and Afganistan.  Prayer for Peace is a short film about a brother – a fallen soldier in Iraq.  This short film reminds us of the human sacrifice made by thousands of soldiers and their families.  The staff at YouPlusDallas pay tribute to Dallas families who have suffered a loss on 9/11 and on the battlefield.

More short films and articles concerning Faith and Religion can be found at www.youplusdallas.com in our Faith and Religion Network

 

5 Things on my iPod

Posted by    |    September 10th, 2011 at 5:40 am

Music has always been such a big part of my life. I thought I’d share with you a few things on my iPod, and I’m hoping to find some new ideas when you share a few things that you are listening to. So here are my lists …

5 things you will ALWAYS Find on my iPod …

  • Jack Johnson – HUGE fan.
  • Coffeehouse type music. Acoustic versions of popular songs and people like Ray Lamontagne, Jason Mraz, Ben Harper, etc (it’s a sure sign I’m getting old)
  • ColdPlay – Love them!
  • Lots of Rock (Classic & Modern) – Steve Miller Band, Boston, Journey, Creed, ACDC, Van Halen, Stone Temple Pilots, Linkin Park, etc
  • Some contemporary stuff – Black Eyed Peas, Dragonette, Enrique Iglesias (more…)

Are American Muslims a threat to us?

Posted by    |    September 8th, 2011 at 6:15 am

Islamic Center of America, the largest mosque in the United States, located in Dearborn Michigan (Credit: Dane Hillard via Flickr)As the tenth anniversary of 9/11 draws near, more and more people are asking if American Muslims are a threat to our nation.  According to a new study, 30% of Americans believe that Muslims in our country ultimately want to establish Shari’a (Islamic holy law) as the law of the land.  The number agreeing with this statement has grown by a third over the last eight months.  And we are evenly divided over whether the values of Islam are at odds with American values and our way of life (47% agree; 48% disagree, including nearly 60% of white evangelical Protestants).

Since the release of my latest book, Radical Islam: What You Need to Know, I have been interviewed by 17 radio stations on the subject.  Every one, without fail, has asked me if the 9/11 terrorists were following the true tenets of Islam.

7 Things Your Children Desperately Need To Hear You Say

Posted by    |    September 8th, 2011 at 5:40 am

This morning as I dropped Cooper off for school, I told him, “Coop, don’t forget that you are by far my most favorite elementary school kid.” From the grin on his face, I could tell I’d said something right.

God has blessed me with four incredible boys. As their father I want to be proactive in raising them. They are one of the biggest ministries in my life right now. I’d rather fail as a minister, a missionary or a businessman, than fail at fatherhood.  Fathers play an essential roll in the lives of their children.  Want proof?  About 5 miles west of Childress is a prison that houses 1200 men.  National statistics say, “85% of those sitting in prison today grew up in a fatherless home.” That just SCREAMS the importance and power fathers play in the lives of their children.

I got to thinking this morning if I could make Cooper’s day by simply telling him, “He was my favorite elementary school kid,” then what other things do my children need to be hearing from me.  I may be wrong, but I’m guessing here are 7 phrases that children desperately need to hear from both their parents … but especially their fathers …. (more…)

9-11 without religion: a call to action

Posted by    |    September 6th, 2011 at 6:15 am

The cross installed on a pedestal at Ground Zero (Credit: Samuel Li via en.wikipedia.org)No religious elements will be included in New York Mayor Michael Bloomberg’s 9/11 commemoration service this Sunday.  Quotations and poems will be read by a variety of leaders, and the list of 9/11 victims will be read in its entirety.  Unfortunately, not a single prayer will be offered for the survivors of this tragedy, for our leaders, or for our nation.  Nor will a single religious leader be included in the event.

The mayor’s decision is surprising, given his support for including the so-called Ground Zero Cross in the 9/11 Memorial and his defense of those who want to build a mosque and Muslim community center nearby.  It might be difficult to decide who should be included, as is the case for most public events.  But it is a mistake to allow no one to offer prayers or represent faith traditions at a ceremony for so many grieving families.

Paying $50,000 to tell the truth

Posted by    |    September 2nd, 2011 at 6:15 am

Nate Smith (second from left) and his dad Pat Smith (second from right) after his amazing 89-foot hockey shot. (Credit: Brendan Burnett-Kurie / AP)

Honesty just cost a family $50,000.  Eleven-year-old Nate Smith shot a hockey puck 89 feet into a 3.5-inch hole in a board laid over the mouth of the goal.  For this remarkable feat, he won $50,000 from contest organizers.  However, his twin brother Nick was supposed to take the shot; his name was on the ticket that Nate used.

No one but the family knew.  They could have pocketed their money and kept their secret.  But their father, Pat Smith, chose instead to notify contest organizers.  The promoters then decided not to give the money to the Smith family, donating $40,000 instead to youth hockey leagues in Minnesota.

What was Pat’s motivation?  He wanted to teach a lesson to his sons: “They learned that honesty is always the best policy, and you can never go wrong telling the truth.”  His strategy apparently worked, as Nate responded, “Some people wouldn’t tell the truth, so it’s cool that we did.”

10 Reasons I Don’t Like People Who Complain

Posted by    |    September 1st, 2011 at 5:40 am

Maybe it’s my personality, maybe it was the way I was raised, BUT I do NOT like constant complainers.  I’m okay with someone occasionally needing to get something off their chest, BUT nothing gets under my skin more than a person who constantly gripes and complains about everything. I’m not talking glass half empty people, who tend to not be as positive … I’m talking people who can’t even see their glass.

Here are a few things I don’t like about people who constantly complain…

  • People who complain all the time are unhappy people. If you hang out with a complainer it will suck all the life and joy right out of you.
  • Complaining takes no talent and no skills. Anyone can be a critic!
  • Complainers never see the positive in anything only the negative. Everything is always bad. They say, “Gas prices are always SO high,” and “Food is SO expensive,” but don’t realize how blessed they are to have both. They could live in a perfect world, and still find something to complain about. (more…)